Christians a question about divorce and what does the Bible say?

Guiseppe Asked: Christians a question about divorce and what does the Bible say?

I'm not a Christian, I'm an atheist, actually, but I do see the moral and historical value of many religious texts.

If you can answer this, and please back it up with scripture, I would be grateful.

What do you do if you're married to someone and they want a divorce but you do not want one. Let's say that there was no adultery or abuse of any kind involved, the other person just simply up and filed for divorce. The person who didn't want the divorce tried very hard, their hardest, to save the marriage but the other person just wouldn't have any of it. What is the person who doesn't want the divorce to do according to the Bible?

I have read the Bible before and it very clearly indicates that divorce and re-marriage are wrong unless there are certain circumstances that took place (such as adultery), but in this situation there was no adultery or spousal abuse. Would the person who did not want the marriage to end be living in sin if they re-married later on?

Again, please, what does the BIBLE say, I'm not asking what your church teaches but what does the BIBLE say?


MAD DOG Answered:
1) In Luke 16:18 Jesus says:
Every one who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.

No outs, no exception. Luke apparently thought that he omitted nothing central to the issue when he quoted Jesus on the issue of divorce. If he thought that Jesus taught that adultery was an exception, why would Luke leave that out? In Luke Jesus is quite clear in teaching that whoever marries someone divorced is an adulterer.

People ignore the passages in Mark and Luke, and then think they can come up with an exception as found in Matthew 19:9 or Mat. 5:32. First, if there is indeed an exception for adultery, it would deliberately contradict Jesus clear teaching in Mark and Luke, where there are absolutely no grounds given for divorce and remarriage. People will often ignore these very relevant passages and focus on some supposed exception. This would show Scripture to be contradictory.

Trevor Answered:
The Bible actually has VERY little to say about marriage, but here's what it DOES say;

It actually has MORE to say about FIGS than it does about marriage!

Perhaps Christians are a little too concerned about marriage, and not concerned enough about figs? Does America need to amend the US Constitution to better address the issue of figs? Or did God make a mistake inspiring too many bible verses about figs and not enough about marriage?

LordGodGoose Answered:
In Mark 10:11, 12 Jesus statement on divorce reads: Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, and if ever a woman, after divorcing her husband, marries another, she commits adultery. Luke 16:18 reads similarly: Everyone that divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he that marries a woman divorced from a husband commits adultery.

Marriage is an institution God put in place, the legal act of getting married is simply necessary to obey the laws of the land as they set out regarding what is deemed necessary to be married, which the Bible also commands (so long as it does not contradict with Bible standards).If there was a legal divorce but no adultery, the only scriptural grounds for divorce as you stated, the divorce would not of itself end the marriage in Gods view, for the Bible shows that immorality by ones mate is the only valid basis for a divorce.Matthew 19:9 says, "I say to YOU that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery."So in a situation where no adultery is involved, as would be needed to give Scriptural substance to the legal divorce in Gods sight neither the man nor the woman would be free to marry other individuals.Even if the person did not want the divorce remarried without the marriage being scripturally broken, he or she would still be committing adultery according to the Bible until the other mate has scripturally broken the bond through having sexual relations with another person.

Web1234 Answered:
you should not divorce unless you are cheated on
Matthew 5:32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery.
Matthew 19:3-9 read it

3 16 Answered:
Well in the Christian sense he's right…in the carnal sense…you're right…so it all comes down to what's more important to you? Sex…or pleasing God. You guys started off wrong by doing that kinda stuff early in the relationship maybe…and now to go cold turkey is extremely difficult. It all comes down to how dedicated you are to your Lord. Do you want to give into carnal pleasures as you people say…or please your God. He probably got fearful because of all this end of the world God is coming talk that's been going around lately. So according to your religion…he's in the right…what do you want ultimately?

the one people go to Answered:
That's a tough predicament you have there. This is just my opinion as a fellow Christian, so feel free to just ignore it. As a Christian I do believe that sex outside of marriage is right but I do see where you are coming from. I have felt like I needed it before in order to feel loved, but what you have to realize is that it is because he loves you that he is saying no. He knows its wrong and can't keep doing it and he doesn't want you to do it either. He is trying to do what is right in this case. And even though its hard I am sure he hopes you will understand.
If you guys have been dating for year and a half and you are 19 why don't you guys get married? I know it is more his decision but have you guys even talked about it. It sounds like you guys are pretty serious.

champ85 Answered:
I am not against religion, but I do believe that it is a framework for people to choose how to live their lives.I do not think it is the definitive guideline so that everybody becomes robots.I always say this to all my really religious friends:If you are so right about your religion, which means everybody else must be wrong about theirs, what if something horrendous happened just after your birth and your parents died and you were adopted by someone of another faith?I guess that religion was the only right religion and all the others were wrong!After all is said and done, just try to live by the Golden Rule, and learn how to interact in the wondrous world.

Sorry for the sidebar, but you have to make some very critical decisions that are possibly going to affect the rest of your life.Your b/f has now chosen to take over the decision making role in this relationship and has decided he has the right to tell you what is right and what is wrong for not only him, but for you as well.If you are good with that, then that is great.However, you are 19 years old, and your whole life is ahead of you.Are you two going to be partners, or are you going to accept being a subservient wife?He has had no problem making an important decision impacting both of you with total disregard of how you feel about it, and you should take that as a significant sign of what may be in store in your future.

This issue just happened to be about your physical behavior, but it really has nothing to do with it!Your thoughts about "him and I against the world" is, in my opinion, what any true love is all about.If you two are going to abide by rules and regulations blindly, I have no response.Being a good person is critical in my life choices, but when it comes to relationships, my wife and I are a team, nobody can break that team, and nobody or no thing can dictate how we choose to live our lives.Living a life of fear of what other people may think is my definition of hell.I am not here to answer our question, because once religion becomes part of the equation, self determination usually is not part of life choices.In the end, the world's population is about 7 billion people with numerous beliefs.With no religion being larger than roughly 2 billion people, there are an awful lot of people who are righteously doomed :)You sound wonderful and I wish you can find both peace of mind and happiness of heart.Best of luck!

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