Common Causes for Divorce

What are Some Common Causes for Divorce?


Common Causes for Divorce

Common Causes for Divorce

The causes for divorce are often the accumulation of many small actions and behaviors over time, but can sometimes be sudden and severe events in the relationship. One of the most common reasons that people divorce is commonly known as “irreconcilable differences,” or in other words “we just grew apart.” This may be the result of emotional changes or misunderstandings, strains caused by poor communication or the inability to resolve conflict, or general life changes of perspective and attitude which the couple simply can’t work their way through. There may have been an understanding at the beginning of the marriage, but if misunderstanding develops along the way, sometimes people can’t work it out. If this is the cause for your divorce, you are among thousands of others who found that there are differences in their marriage that cannot be reconciled.

Sometimes these differences are shown in a general sense of failed expectations or a feeling of unmet needs. When this happens, it can be an example of imagination not matching reality. The longer any relationship lasts – including a marriage – the more work it is, and many people do not expect that. Especially if the communication has begun to fail, a person’s sense of feeling unwanted or unappreciated can fester and become increasingly difficult to deal with. Everyone goes into a marriage with certain expectations about how it will be, and it’s understandable that a common cause for divorce includes disappointment about things not going according to plan.

A common reason that people file for divorce is generally stated as “financial troubles,” but this label can hide many of the underlying reasons. Financial problems can mean generally poor financial decisions, credit card or other debt problems, gambling issues, income disputes, disagreements about planning for the financial future, and various other problems. People place financial priorities differently, and misunderstandings can lead to disagreements. Generally, it can boil down to differences in a general philosophy of spending vs. saving money. The old adage that “the two things most fought about in a relationship are sex and money” shows itself true in the fact that “financial troubles” has been cited as one of the most common causes for divorce.

Probably the most common severe and traumatic event which can end a marriage is infidelity. An affair, whether it is revealed or discovered, can result in a loss of trust and can make one or both people immediately want to leave the marriage. However, an affair itself is often not the problem – it is a symptom of something larger or deeper. Whether an affair results in a divorce straightaway, or if the couple attempts to reconcile the marriage with therapy and professional assistance, the affair can show an underlying lack of commitment to the marriage, and there is the potential for resentment to build in both the cheater, and the spouse cheated on.

Although, there are some commonalities, but the reality is that each divorce is as unique as each married couple, and the causes for divorce vary widely.


Divorce is difficult and one of the most physical and emotionally taxing processes you can go through. The reality that your marriage is ending can put you into a tailspin and ironically, it is during this difficult emotional time period that you need to be completely clear thinking in your business affairs.
You will need to make unemotional and strategic business decisions that will affect your future financial life as a single person.