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What is better for a man as regards marital status………..?

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What is better for a man as regards marital status?

Just think about this from a western viewpoint with all the legalities, and compare the advantages/disadvantages between being married and not being married.

In western society with all the legal processes, marriage is such a fragile, stressful, uncertain, disloyal, non-committing type of arrangement. I suppose on the up side there is a possibility it may work, but there is no denying that a women will always has issues to deal with, and there is always going to be a stress to deal with in keeping the woman thinking that she is happy. It's too much to deal with; there is enough sh't in life without that.

Conversely, a single person never has a legal issue with an arrangement of this type. A single person does not have the figurative ball and chain that they have carry around to persecute themselves with. A single never has to worry about a knife in their back from those who are playing the part of your best friend. On the down side, I suppose there is the issue of loneliness.

But in the end you have to wonder which is the lesser of the two evils?

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Spiritually speaking, should I dump my girlfriend?

Hugo Asked: Spiritually speaking, should I dump my girlfriend?

We just had our third date and she informed me she is saving herself for marriage.Since 100% of marriages in which the couple did not have sex before hand ends in divorce or one person in the couple murdering the other, should I just end it now?

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How to go from Friend to Boyfriend?

hodo2002sbcglobalnet Asked: How to go from Friend to Boyfriend?

Let me start off by saying I'm a recently divorced (1 Year Ago) father of two. Approximately 2 months ago I started hanging out with a female friend that I've know for over four years. Prior to the two months it was mainly "Hi and Bye". During these last two months both families have been doing a lot of things together. We text every day, talk every other day either at church or on the phone. We've gone on one date together which she said "I had a great time" Other than that as families we hung out over 10+ times and every time she said she's had a great time. We've kissed once and made out and every other time we've hung out when I walk her to her car she always gives me a very passionate hug. Just last week though she told me she misses having a boyfriend and is tired of being alone. What do I need to say or do to let her know I want to take this to the next level and have her become my girlfriend and let her know i really like her and her family

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Is she depressed– important?

Rosabeth Asked: Is she depressed– important?

She's my best friend of 12 years. She's 14. We were very close. About a month ago, she started acting wacky. Here's why I'm not sure…

– she's always had low self-esteem
– she's always had an interest in school
– math is hard for her

Here are the things that have changed

– can't focus in algebra
– sleeping habits changed– gets on internet instead
– has stopped eating a lot… loses weight
– completely ignores me and hangs out with the "dumb" girls
– doesn't want to hang out anymore
– stayed at home on Halloween to sleep
– has low self-esteem
– cries for no reason
– recalls dead relative
– has always been stressed
– is going to therapist
– has, in past, been counseled for anger issues
– used to be bullied
– dad isn't great parent; he's divorced and she travels to see him 2 weekends a month.
– not good with social things
– pressured to be smart by dad
– may or may not be on antidepressants

Is she depressed? Do I talk to her? We got in a fight last night. I don't want her to get hurt. I just want my friend back.

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Did Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries really get a divorce!?

Taylor Asked: Did Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries really get a divorce!?

Did Kim really file for divorce? Are they really getting one or is this all lies from the media?!?

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What are some pretty basic steps to stop being controlled by a controlling wife without making her u

LeftBehind2Scar Asked: What are some pretty basic steps to stop being controlled by a controlling wife without making her u

It's obvious that my wife is controlling because she has convinced herself that controlling her environment and the people around her is a way to protect herself from getting hurt or disappointed. But I can't keep living my life with her threatening me to divorce when we argue, or leaving the room when she's about to lose an argument and have to apologize, or go to sleep when it's my turn to talk about my needs/feelings, or force me to stay awake to listen to her needs/feelings, or when things don't go her way she takes charge and manipulates everyone/everything around her so she can get what she wants, or anything else she does…

It's very obvious to me that if I was to strip her of her control over her environment or even just over me, she would go into an unstable and anxious state of mind and try EVEN HARDER to control what I denied her. She has a false sense of security by controlling everything around her; even the financials have to be in her control because she doesn't trust anyone but herself.

How do I end the controlling and give her the correct coping skills to deal with her fear, anxiety, and her insecurities??? Because controlling your husband and all his actions is NOT a way to have a successful marriage…

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How long can postpartum depression last and what are common symptoms?

LeftBehind2Scar Asked: How long can postpartum depression last and what are common symptoms?

My wife and I started a family real young. When we first met, she was in college and I had a decent paying job. Because we were madly in love, after only 2 months of dating she quit college and moved 2 hours south of her hometown to live with me in an apartment. 1 month later we found out she was pregnant (2 months along) and that's when our relationship changed dramatically. We had our first kid when I was 20 and she just turned 21. We had our second when I was 24 and she was 25. Today, I am 29 and my wife is 30. I'm really worried about my wife's addiction of (dependence on) the children and I need your advice if it's a valid concern and if any of you have went through what I'm about to say. The more I read about it, the more it sounds like postpartum depression that just never went away from my first child's birth.

My wife is very avoidant when it comes to our marriage. When there's a conflict, she either wants to not resolve it (talk in circles to avoid progress or argue about petty things to distract me) or she wants to end the marriage entirely and claims she "never loved me"… I can't deal with unresolved conflict; not to mention emotional abuse when she threatens divorce to end an argument and sweep it under the rug.

My children are virtually smothered. When she sits on the couch to watch a movie, she has raised the children (9 and 5) to sit next to her and cuddle her while watching it. If the children (normally my 9 year old) don't react this way at first, she will call them over for "cuddle time".

My wife also controls what the kids do outside of school. I don't know if this is normal, but my wife wants to have the kids do lots of activities after school because she wants them to be exposed to many things. Cub scouts, soccer, karate, dance, daisy scouts, swimming… Mind you, we can't afford all these things, but her girlfriends (Moms that are 5 years or older than her) can so she tries to put the kids in classes that these women put their children in so they can "socialize".

Intimacy with her is a joke. I can't discuss our future together (only her future without me). I can't discuss sex because she is not comfortable with her sexuality still (not my fault, apparently some kids played "doctor" with her and made her feel uncomfortable). I can't talk about my feelings and the marriage. But what I *CAN* talk about is the children, her work, and family vacations she wants to take the kids on…

On Facebook, she is a very politically correct poster. She doesn't post ANYTHING except news about her kids and pictures of the kids (none of me – no exaggeration either). On my Facebook, she will try to tell me what is "appropriate" to post online and what isn't; so I've retorted to posting pictures of myself, the kids, and just playing games online since I can't enjoy having a Facebook like everyone else…

Now, I'm currently a stay at home dad (I lost my job that supported the family and because of a major back injury and because I have NO college education, I'm without work). When I was working, the house was NEVER clean; she spent all her time devoted to the children and set the expectations of attention REALLY high for me when I came home. I'm not one to have a dirty house; even though my spine is fractured and I have arthritis (with no pain meds), I still try to have the house perfect but equally give the kids attention when they ask for it. But because of her conditioning, the kids want attention ALL THE TIME!!!

Now, my son and I have ADHD. This complicates the matters more because my wife doesn't understand that it's a result of slow brain development and always being 3 to 5 years behind the development of other people their age; she's convinced it's a result of bad parenting and not enough discipline (which is NOT true). And here's the kicker, my son didn't start showing signs of ADHD (in her eyes) until I was an at home dad… So she's blaming ME for his ADHD and his difficulties in school…

I don't know, can someone analyze this post and tell me if it sounds like postpartum depression? Or is it bipolar? Or is it PTSD?

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Seriously, I am being pressed to leave my church, due to the fact of my husband not being evenly yok

TINA W Asked: Seriously, I am being pressed to leave my church, due to the fact of my husband not being evenly yok

beliefs, I left my church before.. Prior to marriage, and he did not follow as christ anticpates on us to do, so now We are married and its the same situation. My heart loves christ and my church family. and can see in the spiritual realm of what he is trying to do. So.. I am ready to trust in GOD and end this marriage.

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My stepdad tries to sexually harrass me?

SilvieA Asked: My stepdad tries to sexually harrass me?

My mom and dad got a divorce when I was 10 now I'm 14 and she remarried. I was forced to live her and my stepdad and my brother who's 16 but my stepdad abuses me and my mom doesn't believe me. He tries to touch me all the time when my mom is at work and I hate him so much. He is twice my size and I'm afraid he will rape me if he gets drunk and I'm home alone with him sometime. All I want is to go live with my dad, I love my dad so much he's the best, how can I make the court give me to my dad? He doesn't have a lot of money but I don't care I just want to live with him and leave this house. I told my dad that he tried to abuse me and he said he would kill him if he ever layed hands on me……… please help me.

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How do I tell my dad I need Pads for my period?! Please help me!!?

Sarah Moeller Asked: How do I tell my dad I need Pads for my period?! Please help me!!?

First off, Me and my dad are the only ones in the house and I just started my period YESTERDAY!! And I am only 12.
But my parents are divorced and my mom lives in Idaho now and I have a step mom and she is on the other side of the world. And I only had 2 pads!!! How can I ask my dad to bring me to the store and buy one? Should I just ask? Please Help me!! (Also I am very shy)

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