Leaving a Bad Marriage

Leaving a Bad Marriage

The Tipping Point

 

Leaving a bad marriage can be one of the most positive and liberating things you can do for yourself. The question is, how do you know when it’s the right time to go? I like to refer to this point as the tipping point.

In his best selling book; The Tipping Point, Malcolm Gladwell defines a tipping point as “the moment of critical mass, the threshold, the boiling point”. Gladwell discusses how ideas, products, messages and behaviors spread like viruses. If you’ve ever owned a pair of Crocs, you know what I mean.

So how does this relate to leaving a bad marriage? For every person facing the possibility of divorce, there is a tipping point. It can be a catastrophic event; such as learning that your spouse is cheating, or it can be as Gladwell illustrates; the culmination of a lot of little things that moves you to a decision.

When you get to that point, when you realize that your marriage is irrevocably broken and there is nothing you can do to fix it, you are faced with one of life’s most difficult and painful decisions. Stay or leave?

Either decision presents challenges. Let’s examine the decision to stay. If you stay in a marriage that you know is unfixable, then you can be fairly certain that you will begin to live a life of quiet desperation. Attempting to create an appearance that your marriage is healthy, when it is anything but, can have an isolating effect, leaving you feeling lost and disconnected from family and friends. You forsake happiness.

Deciding to stay will shield you from the risks and pain that the divorce process entails. Your existence will remain the same, but at what cost? The idea of staying, while it can seem easier in the short term, ultimately denies you the opportunity for real personal growth and genuine long-term happiness.

Making the decision to leave a bad marriage can be a scary and risky prospect. Life, as you know it will change forever. Divorce touches every part of your life; your family, friends, finances, lifestyle and your personal well-being. But the divorce process, while difficult, does not last forever. When you are finished with it, what lies on the other side can be a whole new life, filled with exciting opportunities, happiness, change, personal growth and fulfillment.

Making the decision to leave a bad marriage is a very personal one and shouldn’t be taken lightly. Be honest with yourself and understand that whatever decision you make will affect the rest of your life, one way or the other.

So ask yourself this. What do you want for the rest of your life? What will be your tipping point?

Divorce is difficult and one of the most physical and emotionally taxing processes you can go through. The reality that your marriage is ending can put you into a tailspin and ironically, it is during this difficult emotional time period that you need to be completely clear thinking in your business affairs.
You will need to make unemotional and strategic business decisions that will affect your future financial life as a single person.

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