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Seriously, I am being pressed to leave my church, due to the fact of my husband not being evenly yok

TINA W Asked: Seriously, I am being pressed to leave my church, due to the fact of my husband not being evenly yok

beliefs, I left my church before.. Prior to marriage, and he did not follow as christ anticpates on us to do, so now We are married and its the same situation. My heart loves christ and my church family. and can see in the spiritual realm of what he is trying to do. So.. I am ready to trust in GOD and end this marriage.

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Posted by admin - November 1, 2011 at 4:00 pm

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I she serious about marriage?

Saurav Mehta Asked: I she serious about marriage?

I met a girl (Sangeetha) about 6 months back in my office in Bangalore where we both are working and after 2 months of friendship, we approached each other and got into the relationship. This relationship is about 4 months old (Total 6 months).
She is 26 yrs old and I am 33 yrs.

We both are from Karnataka state and both are Hindu but of different caste. She is born and brought up from Bangalore and I am from Belgaum (Other city in Karnataka state).I really have serious doubts of whether she is really wanting to get married to me or its just an attraction or not wanting to lose a friend like me.
A few facts about this relation and her :

1)She is fair and good looking.

2)She had a boy friend (Rajiv) earlier and the relation lasted for one year and broke off. (2 years of friendship before love). He was in India earlier and now is working in UK. The break up happened about 10 months back from now (Jan 2011).

3)Immediately after this break off in Jan 2011, there was a tragedy (Police case) in their family for which she was totally down and needed some emotional support. She started talking to one guy (Vijay) in our office for about 2 months after which he approached her. She said yes, but immediately after a week she got to know that it was just an attraction and not love and she went and told that guy that she does not want to continue. It ended there.

4)After this, she started talking to me (from May 2011). We approached each other and got into this relationship.

5)She has sweared on her mother and told me that she will get married to me. Also,When she wanted to express her love, she did that in a temple in front of God.Further, She has touched my head and told that she loves me.

6)Till date, she has not told anybody (her friends, family or relatives) about her love with me. If I ask her why she did not tell, she says that she had told everybody about her first boy friend and it did not work out. Now if she tells that she is liking me then her friends might have a bad opinion about her. She has asked me not tell anybody in office about our relationship and behave as if we are just friends. So we have not let any one in office know about it.

7)She has met me personally during weekends at my flat where I stay alone ( about 5-6 times from the time we have got into this relationship of 4 months). But always I have to push her to meet. She hesitates to come to meet during weekends, saying though she love me a lot and wants to meet, she gets scared because some one of her relatives/friends might see us together and talk nonsense.

8)Expresses a lot on the phone (love, marriage, post marriage plans etc), and as far as I know does not hide anything about her from me (past or present). She even talks about her monthly cycle (periods of 5 days) to me in detail when it happens. When she talks on phone or when we have met personally she expresses that we should get married next year.

9)Her family background is that, her father is a driver. Their family is heavily indebted and is paying huge interest on the money borrowed for their house construction.In fact 90% of her entire income, her brothers and her fathers income goes in to paying interest on money borrowed. Basically they have a big financial problem. This problem has arised because her father was irresponsible earlier and was not working for about 5 years earlier.

10)She calls me atleast 5-6 times in a day. Gets very upset if I dont take her call once or twice. And once spoken to my mother wishing her on her birthday.

About me and my family :

1)I have told her everything about my past : I was married 4 years back, but the marriage did not last for more than 3 months because my ex was forced into this marriage by her parents when she had other plans.After 3 months of marriage, we got separated and no contact from the last 4 years. I have been single since then.Now, in another few months the divorce will happen.

2)We are well to do family and do not have any financial problems at all. My elder brother is settled in UK with his family. We havelot of properties in our native as well as in Bangalore.

3)I am the youngest. I am an MBA and been working in Bangalore for the last 7 years. Have one sister who is married andis settled in Bangalore. Parents stay in native place. Ours is an educated family.

Advise from you all :

a.Is she ( my girl friend Sangeetha) serious about marriage?

b.Should I believe her that she will not go back by her words?

c.What should I do next?

Rgds,
Saurav

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Posted by admin - October 31, 2011 at 12:30 pm

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How do divorced women feel about new relationships?

Ceilidh Asked: How do divorced women feel about new relationships?

During the end of my marriage (separation, filing for divorce), I had some fun dates, but once I was legally divorced, I found I had NO INTEREST in dating anyone.I have a few pursuers who are men who would probably be nice fits for me, but every time one of them approaches me about doing something, I start having an anxiety attack and make up some stupid excuse of why I can't do this or that…including the, "I'm not ready…"Which, btw, seems to make men pursue even more.Is this normal?I am starting to wonder if there is something wrong with me.I have been legally divorced for 4 months.

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Posted by admin - October 27, 2011 at 3:00 pm

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Open marriage conflict?

Flirting Asked: Open marriage conflict?

My husband and I are in an open marriage. Our number one rule for married people that we date is that their spouse must be aware of the situation. No cheaters allowed. My husband met someone online. After chatting and finding that they had a GREAT connection he tells me the only problem is that her husband does not know, BUT he thinks that he can convince her to talk to him about seeing other people. I VERY RELUCTANTLY concede and let him meet her. Turned out that she played games with him and he does not want to see her in person again. HOWEVER, even though I want to contact to end, he insists that he does not want to burn bridges with her and WILL continue chatting with her online. I am right to be angry about this relationship continuing even though it will be online only?

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Posted by admin - October 26, 2011 at 5:00 pm

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how am i supposed to deal with my parent’s divorce?

Renee Asked: how am i supposed to deal with my parent’s divorce?

i'm a teenager, and honestly i feel like i'm about to have an emotional breakdown because of this. i feel like i wanted their marriage to work more than they did. i KNOW they still love each other! for a fact, they will NEVER stop. they've been together for over 23 years (more than half their lives) and i'm so shocked how they can just throw all of that away! what the hell?! i'm angry, sad, hurt, etc. what do i do, how do i know it's for the best, will everything be okay? please help me.

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Posted by admin - October 23, 2011 at 12:00 pm

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Would you say this is about money or respect? I didn’t put my fiance on my credit cards so he didn’t

Erika Asked: Would you say this is about money or respect? I didn’t put my fiance on my credit cards so he didn’t

I didn't want to add him to my credit cards because we aren't married and have no plans to be. This is our choice – we are both divorcees so we decided to share our life without the title of marriage (been there and done that so to speak). We have lived together based on his income of about $400,000 for the last 4yrs. I make about $40 if sales are good. Last week he asked me to put him on all my credit card and I said no. He said I am being selfish and its about principals with him and because he pays our household bills I should be grateful.

3yrs ago when we move to a master planned community I assumed all credit liability for this home because his score was bad. He gave me the budget and we lived according to his lifestyle. No problem because I believed we are in Love and building a life together so I trusted him. Although we share a home (where the bills are all in my name) I didn't want to merge credit reports unless we are married. This angered him. He gave me 1 days notice to pay ALL remaining bills $2500, he said he would only pay the Rent on our home and by the end of the year we need to move. I am devastated, blind sided and heartbroken. He says he does not want to break up he just wants us to live according to what I can afford and we will now split all bills. In September after 401K, insurance and taxes my net was $2400. I'm almost certain he cleared about $36,000. I feel like he is backing me into a corner. He told me if I had just put him on my credit we wouldn't be going through this. Please tell me should I move into an apartment with the man I love or move on? Should we share credit if we are not married just because we share a home? Is it possible to go 50/50 on bills when he earns $400k and I make $40K?

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Posted by admin - October 21, 2011 at 10:30 am

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How would the military find out I’m divorced if I didn’t tell anyone?

Chris Asked: How would the military find out I’m divorced if I didn’t tell anyone?

I recently got a divorce and don't want to notify finance so I can keep my BAH. How could the military find out if I don't tell anyone about it?

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what the heck is wrong with people? cant thet read anything longer then a tweet?

Tyler Asked: what the heck is wrong with people? cant thet read anything longer then a tweet?

I write questions that are as long necessary to explain all the facts or as long as Yahoo Answers allows me, and all I hget is responses like."Let me know when you're done with that book you're writing!"How about you just dont answer my question if you can't be bothered to read for more than 30 seconds at a time. Why are you on Yahoo Answers: marriage and divorce if you are onlt willing to answer questions like "My wife;s a ***** should I leave her, LOL!?!?!?"Piss off.

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Posted by admin - October 18, 2011 at 11:00 am

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How can a marriage survive when he works so many hours?

Livingthedream Asked: How can a marriage survive when he works so many hours?

Newly wed. Husband got a new job that makes him leave home by 9 and come back later than 9. Sometimes weekends too. How can a marriage work if they dont spend time together? Hes spending more time with workmates than with me. Hes connecting with other people not with his wife. Whats the use of being married then? Just to split the bills? I dont get it. Im afraid it will end up in divorce, just as half of marriages in this country.

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Posted by admin - October 17, 2011 at 1:00 pm

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