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What is better for a man as regards marital status………..?

I know everything Asked: What is better for a man as regards marital status………..?

What is better for a man as regards marital status?

Just think about this from a western viewpoint with all the legalities, and compare the advantages/disadvantages between being married and not being married.

In western society with all the legal processes, marriage is such a fragile, stressful, uncertain, disloyal, non-committing type of arrangement. I suppose on the up side there is a possibility it may work, but there is no denying that a women will always has issues to deal with, and there is always going to be a stress to deal with in keeping the woman thinking that she is happy. It's too much to deal with; there is enough sh't in life without that.

Conversely, a single person never has a legal issue with an arrangement of this type. A single person does not have the figurative ball and chain that they have carry around to persecute themselves with. A single never has to worry about a knife in their back from those who are playing the part of your best friend. On the down side, I suppose there is the issue of loneliness.

But in the end you have to wonder which is the lesser of the two evils?

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Posted by admin - November 1, 2011 at 9:30 pm

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I she serious about marriage?

Saurav Mehta Asked: I she serious about marriage?

I met a girl (Sangeetha) about 6 months back in my office in Bangalore where we both are working and after 2 months of friendship, we approached each other and got into the relationship. This relationship is about 4 months old (Total 6 months).
She is 26 yrs old and I am 33 yrs.

We both are from Karnataka state and both are Hindu but of different caste. She is born and brought up from Bangalore and I am from Belgaum (Other city in Karnataka state).I really have serious doubts of whether she is really wanting to get married to me or its just an attraction or not wanting to lose a friend like me.
A few facts about this relation and her :

1)She is fair and good looking.

2)She had a boy friend (Rajiv) earlier and the relation lasted for one year and broke off. (2 years of friendship before love). He was in India earlier and now is working in UK. The break up happened about 10 months back from now (Jan 2011).

3)Immediately after this break off in Jan 2011, there was a tragedy (Police case) in their family for which she was totally down and needed some emotional support. She started talking to one guy (Vijay) in our office for about 2 months after which he approached her. She said yes, but immediately after a week she got to know that it was just an attraction and not love and she went and told that guy that she does not want to continue. It ended there.

4)After this, she started talking to me (from May 2011). We approached each other and got into this relationship.

5)She has sweared on her mother and told me that she will get married to me. Also,When she wanted to express her love, she did that in a temple in front of God.Further, She has touched my head and told that she loves me.

6)Till date, she has not told anybody (her friends, family or relatives) about her love with me. If I ask her why she did not tell, she says that she had told everybody about her first boy friend and it did not work out. Now if she tells that she is liking me then her friends might have a bad opinion about her. She has asked me not tell anybody in office about our relationship and behave as if we are just friends. So we have not let any one in office know about it.

7)She has met me personally during weekends at my flat where I stay alone ( about 5-6 times from the time we have got into this relationship of 4 months). But always I have to push her to meet. She hesitates to come to meet during weekends, saying though she love me a lot and wants to meet, she gets scared because some one of her relatives/friends might see us together and talk nonsense.

8)Expresses a lot on the phone (love, marriage, post marriage plans etc), and as far as I know does not hide anything about her from me (past or present). She even talks about her monthly cycle (periods of 5 days) to me in detail when it happens. When she talks on phone or when we have met personally she expresses that we should get married next year.

9)Her family background is that, her father is a driver. Their family is heavily indebted and is paying huge interest on the money borrowed for their house construction.In fact 90% of her entire income, her brothers and her fathers income goes in to paying interest on money borrowed. Basically they have a big financial problem. This problem has arised because her father was irresponsible earlier and was not working for about 5 years earlier.

10)She calls me atleast 5-6 times in a day. Gets very upset if I dont take her call once or twice. And once spoken to my mother wishing her on her birthday.

About me and my family :

1)I have told her everything about my past : I was married 4 years back, but the marriage did not last for more than 3 months because my ex was forced into this marriage by her parents when she had other plans.After 3 months of marriage, we got separated and no contact from the last 4 years. I have been single since then.Now, in another few months the divorce will happen.

2)We are well to do family and do not have any financial problems at all. My elder brother is settled in UK with his family. We havelot of properties in our native as well as in Bangalore.

3)I am the youngest. I am an MBA and been working in Bangalore for the last 7 years. Have one sister who is married andis settled in Bangalore. Parents stay in native place. Ours is an educated family.

Advise from you all :

a.Is she ( my girl friend Sangeetha) serious about marriage?

b.Should I believe her that she will not go back by her words?

c.What should I do next?

Rgds,
Saurav

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Posted by admin - October 31, 2011 at 12:30 pm

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Is it a bad thing that I am considering on never getting married possibly?

Magic Mixed Kid Asked: Is it a bad thing that I am considering on never getting married possibly?

I don't understand why some people give me crap when I consider on not possibly getting married? I personally think at times that marriage is overrated! I think that sometimes society sometimes hypes it up to something more that what it is really supposed to be. I think that sometimes society has pounded it to our heads that marriage is something we all must do in the cycle of life. The whole meeting your one and only love that the two of you will live happily ever after with children and the dog and the white picket fence ughhhhhhhhhhh no! That is a fantasy not a marriage. A marriage takes a lot of work! I just don't understand why so many people look at me crazy when i say I am considering on not getting married. They say I will only end bitter and alone. Last time I checked I did not have to have a second person to complete me and make me happy ok! I just want to know why a lot of people think it is a bad thing that I possibly don't want to get married?!

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Should i contact him?

Miss B Asked: Should i contact him?

So my partner of 5 months broke up with me 2 days ago. The reasons he gave were extremely petty (based on me ignoring him when he went to bed after a drunken fight) and I'm guessing it was an impulsive decision following an argument rather than one based on ongoing issues. Of course I could be wrong.. But. The problem is we are both very stubborn people, and he even said himself that one day we would just end up not speaking to each other after an argument because of us both being too stubborn to make the first move.

About 6 hours after we broke up and he left my house, he posted a video on my facebook wall of my favourite cartoon character, but I was angry and felt that if he wanted to contact me he should speak to me properly so I deleted the video and also went back deleting posts between us all the way down my page.

I still feel that after breaking up with me he should be the one to contact me if we are going to speak again, but I also think maybe HE felt he was contacting me by posting the video, and deleting it may have turned him off contacting me again.

The reason why this is important to me and I don't just want to forget about him is that we had fallen very much in love with each other and even spoken about marriage and children (he brought it up every time not me).

Should I try to contact him to break the non-contact between us and find out whether he really did just break up over petty reasons and is being too stubborn to contact? Or should I just assume that either a) there was more to it than what he says, or b) it really was just a petty breakup and he's not worth getting upset over if he can disrespect our relationship and our 'love' like that.

Serious advice would be much appreciated!

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I am British by birth but I was born in Pakistan now I am here in uk and want to claim my birth righ

Sam Asked: I am British by birth but I was born in Pakistan now I am here in uk and want to claim my birth righ

My father came to UK in 1966 and he became British citizen in 1969. After that he married my mother in 1977 in Pakistan. My father got two daughters from my mother. Then he left my mother with out give her a divorce and marries in Pakistan with an other woman and registers her in UK as his wife and got a son from her.
Now I am 30 years old here in UK as a student doing my MBA specialization in Project management, which is almost in its completion phase. And I want to claim my birth right as British citizen but my father who always kept us deprived of our registration in UK . He is evasive and not helping us to give us his nationality passport copy so I can attach it to my application and send to home office.
I try my best he is not refusing me as daughter but he dont want to give me his help in this regards. I went to his home but seem like no hope from there.
Now I am writing because I am really dishearten and I am having this birth right to a bored here according to the British law. I am ready to have DNA test. Or go through any test to prove me his daughter.
The documents that I got my parents marriage photo the marriage certificate their property documents that my father give to my mother .
I got my passport my ID card my birth certificate and education transcripts, which is showing me as his daughters.I can provide my mother and sister documents which shows the same scenario.
Now can you tell me what should I do and do we have any legal rights according to the British law in this case to claim the British nationality as birth right even if our father is not helping . If yes then how should I apply .
If no then where should I go for justice which door should I knock for justice

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Posted by admin - October 26, 2011 at 6:00 am

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my father is a british citizen he was a British citizen at the time of my birth bt i born in an othe

She Asked: my father is a british citizen he was a British citizen at the time of my birth bt i born in an othe

My father came to UK in 1966 and he became British citizen in 1969. After that he married my mother in 1977 in Pakistan. My father got two daughters from my mother. Then he left my mother with out give her a divorce and marries in Pakistan with an other woman and registers her in UK as his wife and got a son from her.
Now I am 30 years old here in UK as a student doing my MBA specialization in Project management, which is almost in its completion phase. And I want to claim my birth right as British citizen but my father who always kept us deprived of our registration in UK . He is evasive and not helping us to give us his nationality passport copy so I can attach it to my application and send to home office.
I try my best he is not refusing me as daughter but he dont want to give me his help in this regards.I went to his home but seem like no hope from there.
Now I am writing because I am really dishearten and I am having this birth right to a bored here according to the British law. I am ready to have DNA test. Or go through any test to prove me his daughter.
The documents that I got my parents marriage photo the marriage certificate their property documents that my father give to my mother .
I got my passport my ID card my birth certificate and education transcripts, which is showing me as his daughters.I can provide my mother and sister documents which shows the same scenario.
Now can you tell me what should I do and do we have any legal rights according to the British law in this case to claim the British nationality as birth right even if our father is not helping . If yes then how should I apply .
If no then where should I go for justice which door should I knock for justice .

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Posted by admin - October 25, 2011 at 8:00 am

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How do I resolve my problems in life?

bigcatrescueaus Asked: How do I resolve my problems in life?

>My school is from hell, and I pray i wake up to not go to school everyday, I want to move, but I don't know which school to go to
> I have depression
> Ever since I have been at my school I have been eating fatty and junk foods EVERY DAY for the last 3 years every afternoon and I have wasted so much life and energy and money with it
> I'm 13
> I don't know who I really am (I question my purpose, meaning, religion, sexuality, philosophy, interests, dreams, goals)
> I don't want to grow up and become an adult, but I don't want to be a child either!
> I shave my whole body subconciously because I want to look young
> I am a boy
> My parents are divorced, and they are abusive to each other and me, and I have attempted suicide from their extremely brutal abuse mentally emotionally and physically to me
> I am only child
> I am not rich
> I am always in pain
> I only get like 5 – 7 hours sleep a night 🙁
> I have an internet addiction and I have wasted about three years of life because of this
> I constantly worry and think about the bad things about the world
> I am very insecure
> I get bullied daily physically mentally teased etc.
> I am short
> I have oily hair, face, acne etc.
> I have bad hygeine and habits (pooping pants because too lazy to go to toilet, don't brush teeth some days, don't have enough showers)
> I have no friends, no social life, and I never get outside
> I wake up at 6, leave at 7, school @ 8, leave school @ 3, home @ 5, and bed @ 11 🙁
> I cry all the time :*
> I have so many medical problems *bitten nails, pulling and scratching of hair, asthma, allergies, etc.) and I always take medication

I don't know what to do in life, I've tried councillors but they don't work at all!

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Posted by admin - October 22, 2011 at 8:30 am

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If we allow theists to marry, isn’t it a slippery slope? Won’t they just marry their goats?

Jabber wock Asked: If we allow theists to marry, isn’t it a slippery slope? Won’t they just marry their goats?

It happened here!
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/4748292.stm

OK, perhaps this would not be the preference of ALL theists, but somebody here seems obsessed by the idea:
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind

(Suggested category: Family & Relationships > Marriage & Divorce)

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Posted by admin - October 17, 2011 at 2:00 am

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What % of marriages ends in divorce?

Em Asked: What % of marriages ends in divorce?

Between 50 and 55%. It sucks.

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Posted by admin - October 9, 2011 at 6:00 pm

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I got married in india through hindu marriage act in court.now we r in uk on study visa my spouse le

Jaspreet Kaur Asked: I got married in india through hindu marriage act in court.now we r in uk on study visa my spouse le

I dont know where he is..i wanna remarry…plzz tell me the way to get divorce easily…..i tried to find him but he is not in my contact…plzzz tell the easiest way to get divorce frpm uk?i cant go india.can I apply from here?

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Posted by admin - October 6, 2011 at 7:30 am

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